OK ... so having breast cancer isn't the best news in the world. But, what can YOU do to change your life around? Have a winning attitude! That's right: A WINNING ATTITUDE!
There are other things in life that are more tragic than losing one or two boobs. If this your first encounter with breast cancer, then you can opt for reconstructive surgery. If you've had prior operations followed by radiation, then reconstructive surgery may not be an option, BUT life does continue.
I may have lost a boob, but I still have my brains, my personality, my sense of humor, my legs, my arms, my eyesight, my heart, my liver, my kidneys and all my teeth. So what if I look a little wierd without any clothes. Most people don't look as attracive "au natural." I recently was stuck in the middle of the 2012 World Nude Bike Day in San Francisco. There wasn't one person who made me one to stop and take a second look.
Be creative with your "loss." Some people have tattoos painted on their chests. The intent is to show that the body is a work of art irregardIess of any surgery. I personally decided to wear beautiful, silk flowers on my blouses / dresses / tops to camouflage my flaw. Nobody can tell the difference.
What about that beautiful lingeries and those Victoria's Secret bras? I have over two dozen designer bras, and I kept all (yes I said ALL) of them. I decided to convert my perfect 38Ds into planters. You can adorn your house, deck or yard with these bra planters. Or better yet! How about giving them away as presents? Can you imagine the look on people's faces on Christmas morning when they open up a box to find a beautiful bra with mistletoe?
People asked what if I were in a situation where I became involved in a serious relationship and had to tell my guy that I'm missing my left boob. Very simple: if a guy is so hung up on physical appearances, then my life is better off without him. However, if the guy decides he can live with my flaw, then more power to him. I'd know he is a keeper with some depth. And what would I tell the guy who cannot accept me as I am? I'd say, "If it's tits and ass you're looking for, go to KFC where you can get all the legs and breasts your heart desires!" This surgery has given me the opportunity to attract a man of substance, not one who cannot see past a minor defect. OK, so I don't get asked out as much as I did pre-surgery. So what! At least I am not wasting my time on dates that are leading nowhere. I focus on the most important relationships in my life: (1) the one with myself and (2) the one with God and (3) the one with my fathful chihuahua.
The most important thing to remember is I made it, and I am a true survivor in every sense of the word!
I love the tattoo idea! You don't have any defects, Sistah. They're mostly fat anyway. You've just lost a little weight. It's your eyes, smile and vivacious, loving soul, that will attract a keeper,anyway. And let's face it. Not all of them are keepers!
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